Updated: Feb 18
"Do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there won't be an end." - Tony Robbins
Love, love oh love. Most of us just love love and the beginning stages of it, so much so that we often wonder why the honey moon stage never lasts. A lot of people even just get addicted to those beginning stages, start a relationship just to experience those airy fairy feels and the minute it's gone, they are off to the next one. And to be honest, what a shame. Those are the exact people who are scared to commit and realize what is truly going on within themselves. The honey moon stage is a wonderful phase, its a phase where EVERYTHING works out. All of a sudden you love your job, your life is going blissfully, opportunities are coming to you like never before, and most of all you are IN-LOVE and living on cloud 9. It's a wonderful feeling and there is absolutely no reason as to why it shouldn't last, which I know a lot of you will say: "erm... HOW?! We all understand the honey moon phase which is WHY it's called a phase. Please, if we could make it last than everyone would be in amazing relationships."
LOL. Take a look around you and truly think to yourself, how many people are in amazing, blissed-out relationships? >> NOT . MANY . AT . ALL. << But did anyone truly take the time to understand why that is and why this "phase" phases out?? I bet not ! Think about it, when you started your romantic, head over heels relationship, what are some differences you could come up with with how you were then versus now?? Most people don't take the time to think about this one, so I will help you folks out.
"In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." - Tony Robbins
You were the BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF, in other words: YOU WERE CONSCIOUS AND AWARE >> of your every action, word, thought, suggestion etc. You were basically who you naturally are, without all the BS thoughts, traumas that molded you into the person that your subconscious thinks you are.
Once both partners start being together and that phase "wears" off, we start becoming unconscious, we start being run by a bunch of old and outdated beliefs, habits and patterns that ultimately will ruin the relationship as both partners are playing out another version of themselves. I know a lot of you may be thinking: "It can't be as simple as that, I have tried to put the romance back into the relationship. I have tried this, I have tried that etc." But honestly, that is the truth. When we are born into this world, our subconscious mind is like a free door way allowing everything to enter and be kept forever. We have made up certain rules about men, women and relationships in general and we start playing those rules out the minute we go unconscious (which is 90% of the time as our minds are filled with different worries, doubt etc). Which if you think about it, you accepted old beliefs from broken relationships when you were a tiny child who doesn't understand much about the world, it doesn't seem fair, right? Right! But that is how our brain has evolved and the GOOD NEWS is that YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN CHANGE IT ! Think about it, you have done it in your honey moon phase, you literally didn't allow any negative thoughts/feelings or suggestions to come and take over you.
"The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships." - Tony Robbins
So to make your relationship as electric as it once was, you have to do the same things you use to do then! >> Become conscious and aware.<<
Put consciousness back into the relationship, make it a priority and you will see that it will start to blossom back into what it use to be. Go out on dates again, (bet both of you haven't done that in a while right? Too busy? Right! All those are excuses!) surprise them with things they like, spontaneously text them, when they enter a room give them your undivided attention etc. You get the idea, basically do all the things you use to do with them and I can promise you will feel all those feels again. Remember wherever you put your attention to, that area of your life will flourish. Watch my video below as I go into the details of this and how you can get back in touch with yourself and your partner.
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lots of love, - Alexandra
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