Updated: Mar 23
"If love is your goal, learn to love yourself first. Understand that you will never find peace through someone else, because peace comes from learning trust, understanding, and love within yourself first." - Drew Tracy
To all my single people out there, STOP CHASING LOVE as if you are running out of time (I don't care what age you are because WE all know someone out there who is rocking in their 70's and just found love again, mmmkay?!) I totally understand for these people that you may be surrounded by so many people who are in loving and long term relationships and making you feel left out, BUT don't compare your love story to theirs, we all have unique ones so allow yours to be YOURS ! & for goodness sake, STOP chasing!!!
I want people to really take a long hard look as to why you are chasing; running towards love, dating several people, going on dating sites and repeating the same sort of cycles on a consistent basis. i.e. Swipe right > MATCH! > Chat > Meet up > Go on a few dates > Fall in love > Get ghosted/cheated on > Break up > REPEAT ! If you are seeing consistent patterns in your dating life and you keep trying to date and meet the right person, please just please STOP! Stop dating, stop trying to make something happen and start looking in the inside as to what is going on! Why does this pattern keep repeating in your life?
"You've got to love yourself first, and until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can't really have a healthy relationship." - Jennifer Lopez
Remember, whatever keeps happening in our lives MEANS we have a certain program/habit that goes towards our survival in this world. If this all seems confusing to you, I would highly suggest looking up and understanding how our subconscious mind works and why it does the things it does. So, you see this pattern you would love to break? You actually want the beautiful love story everyone deserves? Well, you can definitely have it but for now STOP dating and start looking in the inside to see why this pattern keeps happening in your life.
Most of the time, people will say: "Well, I don't feel good enough. I don't feel worthy. I just want someone to show me how much I mean to them. I want them to love me etc." and you may not say that right away but it is what you are feeling in the inside of yourself, especially if you were to ask yourself the right questions and giving you some space to see what comes up for you. So when we go out in this world looking for that one person to prove to us just how amazing we are, to love us all night long, we often find ourselves in broken relationships. This is the kind of energy that completely repels people away from us because it's a desperate kind of energy that no one likes! Sure, the love stage of complete full self awareness may happen in the beginning but let's face it, most people go back to their unconscious ways making the relationship end. Basically two broken people finding each other and not working on themselves. :(
"It's not really fair to ask someone to love you when you don't love yourself. Work on your first. You can worry about "us" later." - Alex Elle
We need to be able to go away and start realizing that absolutely no one, no thing and no place can make you feel worthy, whole, enough and complete. Those feelings MUST come from YOU and ONLY YOU ! You have to start going inwards and giving yourself the kind of love no one can ever give you and from that place, you will start attracting different relationships towards you! Think about it this way, when you feel unworthy, not enough etc. you are sending out a certain signal for people to prove to you just how unworthy and not enough you are (your subconscious mind is looking for evidence of this and thus will end up finding it) but once you start believing just how worthy, amazing, enough, whole and complete you are, you will start sending out a completely different signal towards others being more attracted to you (your subconscious mind looking for evidence to prove to you just how amazing you are)
Really start to think about the qualities you want in a person, don't you want them to feel amazing about themselves? If you do, you have to start feeling amazing about yourself without any validation from the outside world. Create it in the inside first.
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Lots of love, -Alexandra
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