"Change can be scary, but you know what's scarier? Allowing fear to stop you from growing, evolving, and progressing." - Mandy Hale
- CHANGE IS HARD -
Oh my gosh, we seriously NEED to STOP saying that!! I hear it from so many different people and sad thing is the more a person says that, the more it is TRUE for them, and the more it is true for them, the harder they are stuck in the same situations over and over again. I have worked with a lot of different clients who have said that change is hard and have resistance into going in the direction that they actually do want to realize. Most the the time these people are very blinded to the fact about what is actually going on behind that statement. Change is hard is just another way of saying: "I'M SCARED OF CHANGE!!!" Well, first thing is first, we must realize that change is NOT hard, it is actually quite easy because guess what? WE CHANGE ALL THE TIME!!
You are not a child any more who believes in the tooth fairy or that there are monsters underneath your bed. Your body has changed from when you were a child into an adult body and it's still going to keep changing as you get older, hell even your mentality and belief systems are going to change as you continue to grow and evolve and most of us don't put any conscious effort into that right?
So at least we all know and can agree that CHANGE IN FACT IS NOT HARD, IT IS QUITE EASY!!
"We can't be afraid of change. You may feel secure in the pond you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean; a sea." - C. JoyBell C.
So when we know that, we can easily move onto the fact that you most likely are scared of change but in order to have a clearer and deeper understanding you must dig deeper then that. I have brought this many times up before but questioning yourself is one of the greatest ways of understanding a root cause of your initial problem.
One must ask themselves, what is it that they are scared of?
So for example: A person who really wants a great relationships but over and over again they find themselves not able to stay in it for long. They just met a person and that person is ready to take the relationship to the next level but that individual is getting scared of the idea.
So this is when questioning the fear or belief comes in handy. The person in this situation would simply say: "I'm scared of getting married to my partner, and I'm scared of getting married to my partner BECAUSE..... I'm scared of commitment." GREAT! We have the first clue, so this individual is NOT scared of change, they definitely want it to some degree but we know that they are scared of commitment and now we just keep following the trail until we get to the very end of it.
"It's the most unhappy people who most fear change." - Mignon McLaughlin
So the next step would be to say: "I'm scared of commitment BECAUSE..... I saw my parents go through a rough breakup when they were separating from each other and it's something I never wanted to happen to me." WONDERFUL!! So obviously we can keep going with this and keep digging further but to keep this post short, I will stop there and say that in this scenario this can actually be the root cause of the persons fear, the fact that they don't want to have the same kind of separation that their parents had.
Most of the time once we can put conscious awareness into our root fears/beliefs, they tend to go away because we see how silly they are, but if they are still there then it would be wise to discuss with your partner how it would make you feel comfortable in taking the next step into marriage. Or if it is a different scenario, it would be working with someone you trust or a life coach in helping you break away that fear so that you can actually go into the change you want in your life.
"What if I told you that 10 years from now , your life would be the same? I doubt you'd be happy . So, why are you so afraid of change ? - Karen Salmansohn
Remember, change isn't hard and we aren't even scared of change because we do it all the time, there is something deeper that needs to be found in order to break that thinking and it can then allow you to go forward in the direction that you want to go in.
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Stop repeating that awful affirmation and start realizing what is happening deeper within you.
Lots of love & light, - Alexandra
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