"Your greatest responsibility is to love yourself and to know you are enough." - unknown
Self love is something that has been talked about for a while now and again it's not enough to talk about, nod your head and agree that it sounds nice. We must fully understand how to do this and how it will literally start shifting so many things in your life for you. Loving ourselves, TRULY loving ourselves is actually a hard thing to do.
because most of us who grew up were made to feel not good enough, guilty. ashamed, made fun of, ugly, fat, too skinny etc.
and when we have those kind of experiences throughout our life, especially when we have a lot of people who are in agreement to those false statements, we tend to wonder if it is true. We actually start agreeing with those horrible statements, play them over and over in our heads slowly leading it to hate ourselves.
I believe that deep down inside, most of us hate ourselves. We hate what we went through, we hate what other people did to us, we hate what we did to other people/things when we couldn't take the emotional turmoil happening inside of us, because no one every showed us what to do with the emotions that dance inside of us and get bottled up.
"Love yourself first, because that's the one you'll be spending the rest of your life with." - unknown
So because no one ever taught us what to do and how to reject false statements from other people, most of us just ended up hating ourselves. Thing is, we don't walk around with a huge sign saying that we hate ourselves. This is shown in ways on how we treat ourselves. and that can look a little something like:
Cheating on one another
Not feeling love towards us and/or others
Being bitter and reacting in nasty ways
& the list goes on.
But because this whole self love era has been going on, most won't admit what it true deep within themselves; that they do not love themselves fully - they despise themselves.
And the reason I am making this post is because I HAVE BEEN THERE. I know how all these things feel like and the moment I realized that even though on a level, I do love myself. Deep within myself I hated myself for the many things I went through and how I reacted and the amount of shame I was holding on to was getting too much. & I can bet that most of you are the same. Loving yourself is the only way to free yourself from needing the outside things to make you happy, loved, whole and complete (as we all know that the moment we receive that thing or person, it's only a fleeting moment until we need the next thing to make us happy).
"Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing." - Unknown
The moment you can forgive yourself from everything you went through, how you treated others and how others treated you, is the moment you start the healing journey of truly loving yourself. Once we really tap into that self love and fill our cups so full that the overflow affects others to see us in beautiful ways and experience beautiful things all because we finally unlocked the true way of living life, L O V I N G Y O U R S E L F !!
It's the only way folks. Forgive yourself - give yourself a moment to ponder on all those awful events and things and truly forgive yourself. Feel it, see it and experience it. It will set you free. It's what will set your soul free from no longer NEEDING things and people to fill your cup, all because you are capable of doing that on your own.
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